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50 Tips For A Better Life

50 Tips For A Better Life 50个更好生活的建议 by Ideopunk

Happiness 幸福

  1. You don’t have to love your job. Jobs are a way to make money. Many people live fine lives in okay jobs by using the money they make on things they care about.
    你不必热爱你的工作。工作是一种赚钱的方式。许多人通过用赚来的钱做自己关心的事情，在还算不错的工作中过得很好。

  2. Sturgeon’s law states that 90% of everything is crap. If you dislike poetry, or fine art, or anything, it’s possible you’ve only ever seen the crap. Go looking!
    斯特金定律指出，90%的物品都是垃圾。如果你不喜欢诗歌、美术或任何东西，可能你只见过垃圾。去找找看！

  3. People don’t realize how much they hate commuting. A nice house farther from work is not worth the fraction of your life you are giving to boredom and fatigue.
    人们没有意识到他们有多讨厌通勤。离工作更远的漂亮房子不值得你把生命的一部分时间浪费在无聊和疲惫上。

  4. There’s some evidence that introverts and extroverts both benefit from being pushed to be more extroverted. Consider this the next time you aren’t sure if you feel like going out.
    有一些证据表明，内向和外向的人都从被推动变得更外向中受益。下次你不确定是否想出去时，请考虑这一点。

Success 成功

  1. History remembers those who got to market first. Getting your creation out into the world is more important than getting it perfect.
    历史铭记那些第一个进入市场的人。让你的作品走向世界比追求完美更重要。

  2. Are you on the fence about breaking up or leaving your job? You should probably go ahead and do it. People, on average, end up happier when they take the plunge.
    你是否在犹豫是否分手或离开工作？你应该去做。人们平均来说，当他们勇敢尝试时，最终会更快乐。

  3. Done is better than perfect.
    完成总比完美好。

  4. Discipline is superior to motivation. The former can be trained, the latter is fleeting. You won’t be able to accomplish great things if you’re only relying on motivation.
    纪律优于动力。前者可以训练，后者则短暂。如果你只依赖动力，是无法完成伟大成就的。

  5. You can improve your communication skills with practice much more effectively than you can improve your intelligence with practice. If you’re not that smart but can communicate ideas clearly, you have a great advantage over everybody who can’t communicate clearly.
    通过练习，你能比通过练习提升智力更有效地提升沟通能力。如果你不够聪明，但能清晰表达想法，你就比那些无法清晰表达的人有很大优势。

  6. You do not live in a video game. There are no pop-up warnings if you’re about to do something foolish, or if you’ve been going in the wrong direction for too long. You have to create your own warnings.
    你不生活在电子游戏里。如果你要做傻事，或者走错方向太久，也不会弹出警告。你必须自己设计警告。

  7. If you listen to successful people talk about their methods, remember that all the people who used the same methods and failed did not make videos about it.
    如果你听成功人士谈论他们的方法，请记住，所有使用相同方法却失败的人并没有制作相关视频。

  8. The best advice is personal and comes from somebody who knows you well. Take broad-spectrum advice like this as needed, but the best way to get help is to ask honest friends who love you.
    最好的建议是个人的，来自真正了解你的人。根据需要采纳这些广泛的建议，但最好的帮助方式是向诚实的朋友求助。

  9. Make accomplishing things as easy as possible. Find the easiest way to start exercising. Find the easiest way to start writing. People make things harder than they have to be and get frustrated when they can’t succeed. Try not to.
    让完成事情尽可能简单。找到最简单的开始锻炼方式。找到最简单的写作方式。人们把事情做得比必要的更难，当他们无法成功时会感到沮丧。尽量别这样。

  10. Cultivate a reputation for being dependable. Good reputations are valuable because they’re rare (easily destroyed and hard to rebuild). You don’t have to brew the most amazing coffee if your customers know the coffee will always be hot.
    树立可靠的声誉。好声望之所以有价值，是因为它们稀有（容易被摧毁且难以重建）。如果顾客知道咖啡总是热的，你就不必煮出最棒的咖啡。

  11. How you spend every day is how you spend your life.
    你如何度过每一天，就是你如何度过你的人生。

Relationships 关系

  1. In relationships look for somebody you can enjoy just hanging out near. Long-term relationships are mostly spent just chilling.
    在恋爱中，寻找一个你能享受的陪伴者。长期关系大多只是放松。

  2. Don’t complain about your partner to coworkers or online. The benefits are negligible and the cost is destroying a bit of your soul.
    不要向同事或网络上抱怨你的伴侣。好处微乎其微，代价却是摧毁你灵魂的一部分。

  3. After a breakup, cease all contact as soon as practical. The potential for drama is endless, and the potential for a good friendship is negligible. Wait a year before trying to be friends again.
    分手后，尽快切断所有联系。戏剧性的可能性是无穷无尽的，而建立良好友谊的可能性微乎其微。等一年再尝试重新做朋友。

  4. When dating, de-emphasizing your quirks will lead to 90% of people thinking you’re kind of alright. Emphasizing your quirks will lead to 10% of people thinking you’re fascinating and fun. Those are the people interested in dating you. Aim for them.
    约会时，淡化你的怪癖会让 90%的人觉得你还不错。强调你的怪癖会让 10%的人觉得你有趣且有趣。这些人才是对你感兴趣的人。瞄准他们。

  5. There are two red flags to avoid almost all dangerous people: 1. The perpetually aggrieved ; 2. The angry.
    有两个警示信号，要避免几乎所有危险人物：1. 永远心怀怨恨的人;2. 愤怒的。

  6. Those who generate anxiety in you and promise that they have the solution are grifters. See: politicians, marketers, new masculinity gurus, etc. Avoid these.
    那些让你焦虑并承诺自己有解决方案的人是骗子。参见：政治家、市场营销人员、新兴男性气概大师等。避开这些。

Body 正体

  1. The 20-20-20 rule: Every 20 minutes of screenwork, look at a spot 20 feet away for 20 seconds. This will reduce eye strain and is easy to remember (or program reminders for).
    20-20-20法则：每20分钟的镜头工作，观察20英尺外的一个点20秒。这样可以减轻眼睛疲劳，而且容易记忆（或者用程序提醒）。

  2. Exercise is the most important lifestyle intervention you can do. Even the bare minimum (15 minutes a week) has a huge impact. Start small.
    锻炼是你能做的最重要的生活方式干预。即使是最基本的（每周 15 分钟）也有很大影响。从小处做起。

  3. Phones have gotten heavier in the last decade and they’re actually pretty hard on your wrists! Use a computer when it’s an alternative or try to at least prop up your phone.
    手机在过去十年里变得更重了，而且对手腕来说其实挺累的！如果是替代选择，就用电脑，或者至少试着支撑你的手机。

Productivity 生产力

  1. Learn keyboard shortcuts. They’re easy to learn and you’ll get tasks done faster and easier.
    学习键盘快捷键。它们容易上手，你能更快更轻松地完成任务。

  2. Keep your desk and workspace bare. Treat every object as an imposition upon your attention, because it is. A workspace is not a place for storing things. It is a place for accomplishing things.
    保持你的办公桌和工作区空荡荡。把每一件物品都当作对你注意力的强加，因为它确实如此。工作区不是存放物品的地方。这里是完成事情的地方。

  3. Reward yourself after completing challenges, even badly.
    完成挑战后奖励自己，即使挑战很差。

Rationality 理性

  1. Noticing biases in others is easy, noticing biases in yourself is hard. However, it has a much higher pay-off.
    察觉他人偏见很容易，察觉自己有偏见则难。不过，它的回报要高得多。

  2. Explaining problems is good. Often in the process of laying out a problem, a solution will present itself.
    解释问题是好的。在摆设问题的过程中，通常会有解决方案浮现。

  3. Selfish people should listen to advice to be more selfless, selfless people should listen to advice to be more selfish. This applies to many things. Whenever you receive advice, consider its opposite as well. You might be filtering out the advice you need most.
    自私的人应该听从建议，变得更无私，无私的人应该听从建议，变得更自私。这适用于很多事情。每当你收到建议时，也要考虑它的反面。你可能忽略了最需要的建议。

Compassion 同情心

  1. Call your parents when you think of them, tell your friends when you love them.
    想到父母时打电话，告诉朋友你爱他们。

  2. Compliment people more. Many people have trouble thinking of themselves as smart, or pretty, or kind, unless told by someone else. You can help them out.
    多夸奖别人。许多人很难认为自己聪明、漂亮或善良，除非别人告诉他们。你可以帮帮他们。

  3. Don’t punish people for trying. You teach them to not try with you. Punishing includes whining that it took them so long, that they did it badly, or that others have done it better.
    不要因为尝试的人而惩罚他们。你教他们不要和你一起努力。惩罚包括抱怨他们花了太久，做得不好，或者别人做得更好。

  4. Don't punish people for admitting they were wrong, you make it harder for them to improve.
    不要因为承认错误而惩罚别人，你会让他们更难改进。

  5. In general, you will look for excuses to not be kind to people. Resist these.
    一般来说，你会找借口对别人不友善。抵抗这些。

Possessions 财产

  1. Things you use for a significant fraction of your life (bed: 1/3rd, office-chair: 1/4th) are worth investing in.
    你一生中占有很大一部分时间的物品（床：三分之一，办公椅四分之一）值得投资。

  2. “Where is the good knife?” If you’re looking for your good X, you have bad Xs. Throw those out.
    “好刀在哪里？”如果你在寻找你的好 X，你有坏 X。把它们扔掉。

  3. If your work is done on a computer, get a second monitor. Less time navigating between windows means more time for thinking.
    如果你的工作是在电脑上完成的，建议买第二个显示器。在窗口间切换的时间越少，就有更多时间思考。

  4. Establish clear rules about when to throw out old junk. Once clear rules are established, junk will probably cease to be a problem. This is because any rule would be superior to our implicit rules (“keep this broken stereo for five years in case I learn how to fix it”).
    制定明确的规则，说明何时丢弃旧物。一旦制定了明确的规则，垃圾问题很可能就不存在了。这是因为任何规则都优于我们的隐性规则（“把这坏掉的音响保存五年，以防我学会修理它”）。

  5. When buying things, time and money trade-off against each other. If you’re low on money, take more time to find deals. If you’re low on time, stop looking for great deals and just buy things quickly online.
    购买物品时，时间和金钱之间的权衡。如果你手头紧，可以花更多时间寻找优惠。如果你时间紧迫，别再找超值优惠，直接在网上快速购买。

Self 自我

  1. Deficiencies do not make you special. The older you get, the more your inability to cook will be a red flag for people.
    缺点并不代表你特别。你越大，不会做饭就越会成为别人注意的警示信号。

  2. If you’re under 90, try things.
    如果你低于90磅，试试各种方法。

  3. Things that aren’t your fault can still be your responsibility.
    非你的错的事情仍然可以是你的责任。

  4. Defining yourself by your suffering is an effective way to keep suffering forever (ex. incels, trauma).
    用你的痛苦来定义自己，是让痛苦永远持续下去的有效方式（例如，非独身者、创伤）。

  5. Keep your identity small. “I’m not the kind of person who does things like that” is not an explanation, it’s a trap. It prevents nerds from working out and men from dancing.
    保持你的身份小巧。“我不是那种会做这种事的人”不是解释，而是陷阱。它阻止书锻炼，阻止男性跳舞。

  6. Don’t confuse ‘doing a thing because I like it’ with ‘doing a thing because I want to be seen as the sort of person who does such things’.
    不要把“因为喜欢而做某件事”和“因为想被看作是那种会做这种事的人而做”混淆。

  7. Remember that you are dying.
    记住你正在死去。

  8. Personal epiphanies feel great, but they fade within weeks. Upon having an epiphany, make a plan and start actually changing behavior.
    个人顿悟感觉很好，但几周内就会消退。一旦有了顿悟，制定计划并开始真正改变行为。

Others 其他

  1. In choosing between living with 0-1 people vs 2 or more people, remember that ascertaining responsibility will no longer be instantaneous with more than one roommate (“whose dishes are these?”).
    在选择与0-1人同住还是与2人或以上生活之间时，请记住，多位室友的责任不再是瞬间完成的（“这些碗是谁的？”）。

  2. When you ask people, “What’s your favorite book / movie / band?” and they stumble, ask them instead what book / movie / band they’re currently enjoying most. They’ll almost always have one and be able to talk about it.
    当你问别人“你最喜欢的书/电影/乐队？”他们结巴时，问他们现在最喜欢哪本书/电影/乐队。他们几乎总会有自己的，并且能够谈论它。